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An American Bride in Kabul: A Memoir Paperback – October 7, 2014
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- Print length256 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- Publication dateOctober 7, 2014
- Dimensions6 x 0.58 x 9 inches
- ISBN-101137279400
- ISBN-13978-1137279408
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“Engrossing...Chesler adroitly blends her personal narrative with a riveting account of Afghanistan's troubled history, the ongoing Islamic/Islamist terrorism against Muslim civilians and the West, and the continuing struggle and courage of Afghan feminists.” ―Publishers Weekly
“No human culture compromises the rights of women more than Islam. Today over 700 million women are directly or indirectly affected by the Koran and the teachings of Mohammed. Phyllis Chesler is by far the bravest and most outspoken American feminist to address the plight of Muslim women. In this book she shares with the reader her first encounter with Islam in Afghanistan. It is a moving account of the harrowing experience of one woman who almost meets her death in a culture that could not be more alien to her American upbringing. Yet every page is laden with compassion and love for the ex-husband and his family she unwittingly joined. I recommend this book be put on the reading list of every American school.” ―Ayaan Hirsi Ali, Author of Infidel and Nomad
“Boom. Suddenly Phyllis Chesler is a prisoner in Afghanistan. Without a passport. As a wife without rights of any kind. Her bridegroom, once her equal when they met in New York, now in his own land, is a stranger…she is in an utterly male society where women and children are a man's property--"his to protect or abuse. They are his to kill. It is the way things are." This is disconcerting to say the least…She escapes. This is how it all started. This is a bold book; intimate and rich in detail; as revealing a story about class, gender and religious differences as one will find. Chesler is a voice crying out for women. She had the right training. She will never stop.” ―Kate Millett, author of Sexual Politics and Going to Iran
“This is a wondrous, invaluable memoir and meditation on women, culture, history, and the meaning of freedom. Phyllis Chesler tells a moving story in a direct, unaffected style and is able to draw conclusions of a wider import: reflections on the complex interplay of culture, more complex than the cliché of "a clash of cultures." Chesler is remarkably generous to her husband. In trying to understand him, she is able to tease out valuable historical and cultural lessons. After fifty years of reflection, Chesler is able to distil mature and wise judgments from her dramatic experience, on the persecution and suffering of Muslim women. Chesler's own feminism really began with these experiences in Afghanistan. One of the other merits of the book is her introduction to the reader of a whole host of writers, travelers, and diplomats who have written perceptively about Islamic countries in general but on Afghanistan in particular, especially the treatment of women and slaves.” ―Ibn Warraq, author of Why I am Not Muslim and Defending the West: A Critique of Edward Said's Orientalism
“With a deft pen and a half-century of experience, Chesler revisits her brief, unpleasant, but life-changing and ultimately precious time in an Afghan harem. Although hardly the only feisty Western woman to despair at finding, on their visiting his home country, her debonair Muslim husband turned into an unrecognizably primitive tyrant, she drew unique benefits from the experience. These included finding her career focus (feminism), her field of study (psychology), her world outlook (principled liberalism) –and this marvelous book.” ―Daniel Pipes, Director of the Middle East Forum, author of In the Path of God: Islam and Political Power.
“In her fascinating new memoir, Phyllis Chesler offers a vivid account of landing in Afghanistan in 1961 as a young bride – and finding herself a victim and virtual prisoner of that country's cruel anti-women customs and habits. Ms. Chesler was only 20, the product of a sheltered Orthodox Jewish household in Brooklyn, when she married a fellow student, a Muslim who came from a prominent Kabul family. Her companion was seductive, exotic, alluring, and seemed to promise her the world. But Ms. Chesler, who would go on to become a famous feminist leader and the author of the classic Women and Madness, attributes some of her later accomplishments, including her passionate stance on behalf of women, to insights she gained in that period. She finds herself trapped in a household replete with madness, including a mother-in-law who is sadistic and punitive and a husband who emerges as mean and uncaring. Despite her in-laws' wealth, she is often hungry, denied the foods that she can eat, and she can't even go out on her own to see a country she had longed to explore. Stripped of her U.S. passport when she landed, she finds her movements severely restricted. Many of the book's insights about 1961 Kabul seem oddly relevant to Kabul in 2013 – a culture that, if possible, has become even more heinous to women with the advent of the Taliban. This is an eye-opening work.” ―Lucette Lagnado, author of The Man in the White Sharkskin Suit and The Arrogant Years
“With An American Bride in Kabul, Phyllis Chesler, brilliantly brings to life the plight of so many Muslim women helplessly trapped in the prison which is Islamist misogyny. Through the eyes of her innocent and insightful Brooklyn girl, Chesler provides humanity a service--a window into the internal workings of the male-dominated Islamist familial conspiracy against women. Her story is believable because it is sadly repeated millions of times around the globe. A must read, An American Bride will leave readers finally able to feel the powerlessness which overwhelms Muslim women who are victims of honor abuse and violence. Readers will leave understanding like so many Muslim reformers already do that Islamist misogyny is a Muslim problem that needs Muslim solutions.” ―M. Zuhdi Jasser, MD, President, American Islamic Forum for Democracy, author of The Battle for the Soul of Islam: An American Muslim Patriot's Fight to Save His Faith.
“I love this book and could not put it down. It is the romantic and riveting story of a young woman from the orthodox Jewish neighborhood of Borough Park, who rebelled against a sheltered life in which women were religiously dominated by men and who then traveled to Afghanistan where she saw women who were far more oppressed and who lived under conditions of polygamy, purdah, poverty, and the burqa. This journey sowed the seeds of a very American feminism. We learn about other westerners, especially women, who travelled this route and we learn about the ancient history of the Afghan Jewish community. This book has the power to inspire a new kind of interfaith dialogue. Book club members will discuss this work for a good long time.” ―Rivka Haut, Author and Orthodox agunah activist, Co-Editor of Daughters of the King: Women and the Synagogue, Co-Editor of Women of the Wall, and Co-Editor of Shaarei Simcha Gates of Joy
“I loved every second of reading Chesler's amazing book. Kudos to her for standing in her truth. An American Bride in Kabul is a very courageous piece of work and I am in awe of Phyllis Chesler's determination to tell the truth of her experience, a truth which confirms the stories of so many Muslim women. I couldn't stop reading this book and felt Phyllis's powerful words grabbing my heart and opening up the deep emotions. A must read!” ―Soraya Miré, Author of The Girl With Three Legs
“Phyllis Chesler's An American Bride in Kabul is the most compelling autobiography I have read in a long time. It not only vividly tells us about women's lives in Afghanistan from the perspective of an American woman, but more importantly how and why American women fall into the trap of an Islamic marriage.” ―Nonie Darwish, author of The Devil We Don't Know: The Dark Side of Revolutions in the Middle East
“Phyllis Chesler's brilliant and courageous memoir will resound in your heart and mind long after you turn the final page. Dr. Chesler, an American Jewish woman, escaped from starvation and isolation in Afghanistan--and came close to death in the process. Perhaps most inspiring is Dr. Chesler's voyage in using those unimaginable experiences as a springboard to become a leader of women's rights around the globe. Her decades of academic and professional work advocating for women who cannot cry out for themselves is a tremendous legacy: the seeds of this deep calling were sown in Afghanistan and are now recounted here in this moving and marvelous book.” ―Sara Aharon, author of Kabul to Queens: The Jews of Afghanistan and Their Move to the United States
“Chesler pens a cautionary tale of the perils of far-flung passion and the hazards of romantic exoticism. In precise, pungent and, at times, granular detail, she summons a world festooned by fantasy and myth. In An American Bride in Kabul, she gives full-throated voice to the beguilements of the East, etching a portrait-in-the-round, at once grand and engrossing.” ―Michael Skakun, author of On Burning Ground: A Son's Memoir
“Phyllis Chesler's newest book is rich and operatic, taking us into a world few of us have known about, telling us in descriptive, historical, political, religious, and deeply personal detail things that can transform our ways of thinking and feeling about everything from interpersonal dynamics to global politics. And this book illuminates one major reason she has for decades been the insightful, ardent, tireless feminist educator and activist she became.” ―Paula J. Caplan, Ph.D., Harvard University psychologist and author of, among others, The Myth of Women's Masochism and Don't Blame Mother
“Intelligent, powerful and timely.” ―Kirkus
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- Publisher : St. Martin's Griffin; Reprint edition (October 7, 2014)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 256 pages
- ISBN-10 : 1137279400
- ISBN-13 : 978-1137279408
- Item Weight : 2.31 pounds
- Dimensions : 6 x 0.58 x 9 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #680,144 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #367 in Jewish Biographies
- #7,475 in Women's Biographies
- #20,277 in Memoirs (Books)
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About the author

Phyllis Chesler is an Emerita Professor of Psychology and Women's Studies at City University of New York. She is a best- selling author, a legendary feminist leader, a psychotherapist and an expert courtroom witness. Dr. Chesler has published thousands of articles and, most recently, studies, about honor-related violence including honor killings. She has published many classic works such as Women and Madness, Mothers on Trial. The Battle for Children and Custody, and Woman's Inhumanity to Woman. She is about to publish her fifteenth book in October, 2013, titled An American Bride in Kabul.
Dr. Chesler has lived in Kabul and Jerusalem and now lives in New York City. She has led campaigns and lectured in Europe, the Middle East, and the Far East.
Dr. Chesler is co-founder of the Association for Women in Psychology (1969), the National Women's Health Network (1974), and the International Committee for the Jerusalem based Women of the Wall (1989).
A revised and updated edition of Women and Madness was published in 2005; a new edition of Woman's Inhumanity to Woman with a new Introduction was published in 2009; and a Twenty Fifth anniversary edition of Mothers on Trial with eight new chapters was published in 2011. In 2009, 2010, and 2012, Dr. Chesler published three pioneering academic studies on honor killings and an academic article about the Burqa. All four studies appeared in Middle East Quarterly. Her work has been translated into many European languages and into Japanese, Chinese, Korean, and Hebrew.
Since 9/11, Dr. Chesler has focused on the rights of women, dissidents, and gays in the Islamic world; on anti-Semitism and the demonization of Israel; the psychology of terrorism; the nature of propaganda; and honor-related violence. She has testified for Muslim and ex-Muslim women who are seeking asylum or citizenship based on their credible belief that their families will honor kill them.
Over the years, Dr. Chesler has appeared in the mainstream, leftwing, and rightwing media. She has been on The Today Show and The O'Reilly Factor; on Donahue, Geraldo, and Oprah--and on the 700 Club; Israel National radio, and Al-Hurrah. Dr. Chesler has been on Nightline, Court TV, the History Channel, MSNBC, NPR, the MacNeil-Lehrer Report and CNN--and on FOX News.
Dr. Chesler has been published, interviewed, and reviewed in The Washington Post, The International Herald Tribune, The Times of London, The New York Times, The Weekly Standard, National Review, Il Foglio, Ha'aretz, Frontpage.com, Salon, The Globe and Mail, The London Guardian, Israel National News, The Jewish Week, The Jewish Press, Psychology Today, Science Magazine, etc.
There are over 4 million references to Dr. Chesler's work online. She has been profiled in many encyclopedias, including Feminists Who Have Changed America, Jewish Women in America, and in the latest Encyclopedia Judaica. Approximately 100,000+ people visit her website each year and from more than 180 countries. Her articles are archived at her website http://www.phyllis-chesler.com/ where she may also be contacted.
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Customers find the memoir fascinating and informative, providing a rare inside look at life in Afghanistan, and one customer notes it's well-researched. The book receives mixed reviews for its writing style, with some finding it thoughtfully written while others describe it as poorly written, and for its story quality, with some finding it compelling while others say it lacks substance. While customers appreciate its charm and cultural insights, some find it boring to read. The intelligence of the author receives mixed reactions, with some describing her as a very smart young woman while others find her confusing.
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Customers find the book fascinating and informative, providing insights into another culture.
"...Chesler’s personal insights and well-read knowledge of the Middle East gave the book an somewhat authoritative edge from other books about east..." Read more
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"...The first part, which reflects the title, was quite interesting as a tale of the author's brief time in Afghanistan filtered through many years of..." Read more
"...34;An American Bride In Kabul" is smart, and captivating, and a powerful read. Martha Joy Rose - Founding Director, Museum of Motherhood NYC" Read more
Customers find the book readable and engaging, describing it as an eye-opening and informative read.
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"...on reading because I respected her subject knowledge, research and well readness. But the further I got, the more of a slog it became...." Read more
"...34;An American Bride In Kabul" is smart, and captivating, and a powerful read. Martha Joy Rose - Founding Director, Museum of Motherhood NYC" Read more
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Customers appreciate how the book provides insight into Afghan culture, with one customer noting it offers a woman's perspective on life in Afghanistan, while another highlights its value in understanding the Muslim world.
"Phyllis Chesler's book is wonderful for understanding a woman's life in Afghanistan, but it also gives glimpses of what life might have been like..." Read more
"...I learned a great deal both about Islam and Afghanistan...." Read more
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"...It was useful to understand the culture of Afghanistan and why the conflict was doomed to failure. It was repetitive." Read more
Customers find the book charming and appreciate its rare inside look at the subject matter.
"...Abdullah Kareem infuriates me, and I despise him, yet he is charming and dapper and even Chesler can’t hate him completely...." Read more
"...They are often handsome, charming and sexy. Now that these men westernize their names, one may not realize the men's affiliations...." Read more
"...The writing itself, of course, is beautiful, and while some may call Dr. Chesler an Islamaphobe, judging from the book, she has nothing but warmth..." Read more
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Customers have mixed opinions about the writing quality of the book, with some finding it thoughtfully written and readable, while others describe it as poorly written and hard to read.
"...man and went with him to live in Kabul with his family, is rich enough as a story, but Chesler, an intellectual and academic, goes beyond that..." Read more
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"...I stayed with the raw emotions, excitement and abject fury I felt as she traveled first as a young feminist-in-the-making and subsequently as a..." Read more
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"...age and though I was not brought up in an orthodox home, I can relate to her love affair to someone whose difference is alluring and even magnetic...." Read more
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"...scholarly care and accuracy, deep background, with the womanly drama in the foreground, is exciting, thought-provoking and simply pulls one in...." Read more
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Customers have mixed opinions about the author's intelligence, with some describing her as a very smart young woman and intelligent, while others find her confused.
"...34;An American Bride In Kabul" is smart, and captivating, and a powerful read. Martha Joy Rose - Founding Director, Museum of Motherhood NYC" Read more
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- Reviewed in the United States on July 26, 2022I was positively surprised by this book. Phyllis Chesler delivered more than I expected. A Jewish American girl, who fell in love with a charming Afghan man and went with him to live in Kabul with his family, is rich enough as a story, but Chesler, an intellectual and academic, goes beyond that experience in purdah, to examine her situation and that of Muslim women in general with a feminist lens that was not available to her in the early 1960’s.
I could not help but think that I could have been her. We are if the same age and though I was not brought up in an orthodox home, I can relate to her love affair to someone whose difference is alluring and even magnetic. Chesler’s personal insights and well-read knowledge of the Middle East gave the book an somewhat authoritative edge from other books about east meets west relationships. The didactic quality of the book helped me feel enriched by the experience and I appreciate that these two ‘star-crossed’ lovers maintain a relationship well into their autumn years. Abdullah Kareem infuriates me, and I despise him, yet he is charming and dapper and even Chesler can’t hate him completely. And, that is life; it is complicated. To Phyllis Chesler, I admire you, your accomplishments, your journey, and reflections and analysis about feminism and its inexorable tie to democracy. In view of all that is currently happening in the U.S. today, the Supreme Court’s forced birth stance, and the loss of body autonomy, I wish I could commiserate with you, Phyllis, about the country we love.
- Reviewed in the United States on January 17, 2014The book kept me fascinated. The writing was simple but the story was informative and also true. It is also very timely It was reminiscence of "Not Without My Daughter" which is referenced a few times in the book. Most of us don't realize how drastically our lives would change if we were to marry and live in Afghanistan. Women are like chattel and have no rights. They must be completely veiled whenever they are out and can't even have peripheral vision. When reading this book I imagined myself in her position and how I would handle it. I admire her courage and her ability to escape and change her life
- Reviewed in the United States on August 21, 2020what to think about this book. The first part, which reflects the title, was quite interesting as a tale of the author's brief time in Afghanistan filtered through many years of living and some diary entries of the time. She finally escaped a terrible marital situation and returned to the U.S. where she continued her schooling and became a feminist writer and scholar. I kept on reading because I respected her subject knowledge, research and well readness. But the further I got, the more of a slog it became. Diatribes against burkas, Islamic terrorism, cruelty to women, her ex husband whom she still interacts with, Osama Bin Laden, Islam in general, the political and economic mess in Afghanistan today, Afghan history, yaddda yadda...in no particular order and mismashed together. By the end I was pretty disgusted and didn't care anymore. The book could use some better editing and reorganization. It just went all over the place. Granted the issues presented are sad, shocking, terrible, etc. But I think it was overkill, banging on over and over. The book would be better if it had just told her story and what she learned personally. The other stuff was extraneous to purpose and would be well presented in a separate book. Some of it was elucidating but then became repetitive and confused.
- Reviewed in the United States on December 27, 2013I have been reading without stopping, and just finished the last pages of "An American Bride In Kabul". I fortified the early parts of my literary journey with tea, dried fruit, and nuts, as suggested by Phyllis Chesler in the first chapters. I stayed with the raw emotions, excitement and abject fury I felt as she traveled first as a young feminist-in-the-making and subsequently as a survivor from a strange journey in a strange land. It was muddy and cold even as I turned page after page from under my down comforter, captivated while on my holiday break. Now my brain is a-buzz contemplating some of the larger life lessons this love story invokes. Have I been naive? How thoughtless and stupid I've been anticipating an equal world. Ms. Chesler calls us again and again to pick up virtual arms against all forms of tyranny. She also wisely councils those of us who might not believe that terror is real, that evil does exist, and we have to look no further than the Taliban and al-Qaeda to find it. She speaks of enlightenment guided by principles of equality for all women. I am a "nice" girl, afraid of causing trouble, yet here I am in the thick of it. Called out of my comfort zone to confront injustice on any level.This week's marathon of Chesler books has fortified me for the month's ahead. "An American Bride In Kabul" is smart, and captivating, and a powerful read.
Martha Joy Rose - Founding Director, Museum of Motherhood NYC
- Reviewed in the United States on August 21, 2023This book is such an intense and frightening look at life for a wife inside Saudi Arabia. The only issue I have is how understanding and empathetic she is towards her husband and his family. They kept her prisoner and she almost died, but she maintains a familial relationship and contact with them. I was a bit taken aback by that, but it does not change the impact of the story itself, which I highly recommend for anyone looking to learn more.
- Reviewed in the United States on January 7, 2024Amazing book! Very insightful!
Didn’t realize this was an accomplished author prior to this novel. I only wonder what took her so long to share this adventure with us?
Maybe this should be required reading for senior high school students in our country,
it might educate our little coddled youngsters, let them see how the other citizens of the world live, especially the females.
If you get my drift?
Highly recommend to all.
Top reviews from other countries
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MikaReviewed in Italy on October 29, 2020
5.0 out of 5 stars fa pensare
un libro scorrevole, ma profondo che ti fa pensare. Ambientato negli anni 60, ma credo alcune cose nn siano cambiate..
- Martha McFReviewed in Canada on August 23, 2020
5.0 out of 5 stars Very interesting!
The author’s personal story mixed in with a lot of history. I recall Afghanistan being on the news as I grew up but did not know anything beyond that. This book helped me understand much more about what was going on and why as well as a first hand account of living there from a foreign woman’s perspective. Very eye opening!
- AnitaPRReviewed in India on November 28, 2018
5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful and informative!
Phyllis Chesler is brave, humble and extremely inspiring! The book provided a deep insight in to the culture of the Afghans...an understanding of why things may never change in that country for a foreseeable future. I admire phyllis's courage. A must read!
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Norma Arriaga IslasReviewed in Mexico on April 19, 2019
5.0 out of 5 stars Buena lectura
Interesante
- Nereda Ruth LermondReviewed in Australia on November 6, 2021
5.0 out of 5 stars Wonderful to know and understand life for women in Kabul.
It confirms how lucky women are living in Australia.