Print List Price: | $19.95 |
Kindle Price: | $14.99 Save $4.96 (25%) |
Sold by: | Hachette Book Group Price set by seller. |
Your Memberships & Subscriptions
Download the free Kindle app and start reading Kindle books instantly on your smartphone, tablet, or computer - no Kindle device required.
Read instantly on your browser with Kindle for Web.
Using your mobile phone camera - scan the code below and download the Kindle app.
OK
Audible sample Sample
The Myth of the Spoiled Child: Challenging the Conventional Wisdom about Children and Parenting Kindle Edition
In The Myth of the Spoiled Child, Alfie Kohn systematically debunks these beliefs -- not only challenging erroneous factual claims but also exposing the troubling ideology that underlies them. Complaints about pushover parents and coddled kids are hardly new, he shows, and there is no evidence that either phenomenon is especially widespread today -- let alone more common than in previous generations. Moreover, new research reveals that helicopter parenting is quite rare and, surprisingly, may do more good than harm when it does occur. The major threat to healthy child development, John argues, is posed by parenting that is too controlling rather than too indulgent.
With the same lively, contrarian style that marked his influential books about rewards, competition, and education, Kohn relies on a vast collection of social science data, as well as on logic and humor, to challenge assertions that appear with numbing regularity in the popular press. These include claims that young people suffer from inflated self-esteem; that they receive trophies, praise, and As too easily; and that they would benefit from more self-discipline and "grit." These conservative beliefs are often accepted without question, even by people who are politically liberal. Kohn's invitation to reexamine our assumptions is particularly timely, then; his book has the potential to change our culture's conversation about kids and the people who raise them.
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherDa Capo Lifelong Books
- Publication dateMarch 25, 2014
- File size678 KB
Customers who bought this item also bought
Editorial Reviews
Review
—Boston Globe
“Kohn picks apart the script that today’s kids are coddled and lazy—complaints every generation makes about the succeeding one.”
—Atlanta Journal-Constitution
“Kohn explains why the belief that modern parents are too permissive (or too overprotective) and that kids are entitled, narcissistic monsters is wrong. He has the research to back it up and creates a convincing argument.”
—San Francisco Book Review
“Filled with surprising insights and counterintuitive data. An energetic...argument against all the columnists, politicians and pundits who insist children today are spoiled.”
—Lenore Skenazy, New York Times Book Review
“A wise and passionate book—by one of the best friends our children have today—that is also a delight to read.”
—Jonathan Kozol, author of Fire in the Ashes
“A well-researched, important counter-truth to all the foolishness...A must-read for parents who care.”
—Seth Godin, author of Linchpin
“Splendid...Kohn’s analysis is incisive, witty, and fun to read. In a manner that reminds me of Voltaire, Kohn brings clear and profound social criticism to a topic of great contemporary importance.”
—William Crain, author of Reclaiming Childhood
“An insightful, well-informed, thorough analysis of the many false and hostile claims made about parents and children today. Kohn patiently dismantles myths and then provides a positive vision of parenting for our time.”
—Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, coauthor of When Will My Grown-Up Kid Grow Up?
About the Author
Product details
- ASIN : B00G1SD9PI
- Publisher : Da Capo Lifelong Books (March 25, 2014)
- Publication date : March 25, 2014
- Language : English
- File size : 678 KB
- Text-to-Speech : Enabled
- Screen Reader : Supported
- Enhanced typesetting : Enabled
- X-Ray : Not Enabled
- Word Wise : Enabled
- Sticky notes : On Kindle Scribe
- Print length : 282 pages
- Best Sellers Rank: #1,197,675 in Kindle Store (See Top 100 in Kindle Store)
- Customer Reviews:
About the author
Alfie Kohn writes and speaks widely on human behavior, education, and parenting. He is the author of twelve books and hundreds of articles. Kohn has been described by Time Magazine as “perhaps the country’s most outspoken critic of education’s fixation on grades and test scores.” He has appeared twice on “Oprah,” as well as on “The Today Show,” NPR’s “Talk of the Nation,” and on many other TV and radio programs. He spends much of his time speaking at education conferences, as well as to parent groups, school faculties, and researchers. Kohn lives (actually) in the Boston area – and (virtually) at www.alfiekohn.org.
Customer reviews
Customer Reviews, including Product Star Ratings help customers to learn more about the product and decide whether it is the right product for them.
To calculate the overall star rating and percentage breakdown by star, we don’t use a simple average. Instead, our system considers things like how recent a review is and if the reviewer bought the item on Amazon. It also analyzed reviews to verify trustworthiness.
Learn more how customers reviews work on Amazon-
Top reviews
Top reviews from the United States
There was a problem filtering reviews right now. Please try again later.
Kohn’s the rare author who breaks down real-life arguments into their components and doesn't just cite but, rather, pores over the original research pertaining to each of them. He dissects several important studies whose so-called results get thrown around quite often in parenting books and articles—e.g., the marshmallow experiments, research on narcissism in young people, studies on children’s self-esteem and the importance of grit—and surprises us with what the research actually shows (and, at times, the disparity between how the authors of the studies interpreted their results versus how others typically report them).
It’s all too rare that an author walks readers through such conceptual and research heavy lifting that they come away with new understandings about topics with which they thought themselves already familiar. Kohn has done a tremendous service for us parents and our children by writing such a book. That he does so in a way that is both enjoyable to read and at times evokes a chuckle with its incisive wit is all the more valuable an accomplishment! I’d say that even exhausted parents whose intellectual life at home extends no further than reading for 20 minutes before bedtime will benefit from, and have no problem absorbing, this book’s clearly presented ideas and evidence.
Whether you’re liberal or conservative, traditional or progressive, well-read about parenting and developmental psychology or generally too busy parenting in real life to read many books about it, The Myth of the Spoiled Child will get you thinking whether the parenting beliefs and practices you apply every day are leading where you really want to go. Even if you already consider yourself relatively well-informed, self-reflective and evolved as a parent, this book is almost sure to challenge you in the best ways. As Kohn shows so powerfully, some of the basic tenets we all take as parenting common sense are unlikely to truly meet our long-term goals or lead to a better world for our children, both now and as adults.
I can count the number of parenting books I’ve considered life-changing on one hand. The Myth of the Spoiled is one of them, up there with the classic How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk. I cannot think of a higher compliment than that.
One of the most interesting parts is when he describes on page 72 that parents must promote self-sufficiency in children but also maintain connection. If we go about parenting and educating children based on journalistic op-ed pieces, we will just detach, detach, detach without much thought but at the peril of our children. Our children need to differentiate themselves to become autonomous but only knowing there is a safe, supportive family to stay connected and cared for.
What I really like is the huge list of references at the end of the book; This one is heavily researched. When one is trying to undo deeply seated myths like -- kids are generally terrible and need constant correction or else they will grow up to be sociopaths -- the first thing to do is point out all the accepted claims that really have no basis in fact or real research. Education like mental health counseling, like law enforcement training, the soft sciences are very difficult to research and yet we depend on the purported research he describes to organize our schools and train our community leaders and helpers. Currently our education system in America is not completely successful. Based on the science that we do have, that get tough policies don't work in many areas, we need to re-examine the structure and organization of our institutions and replace outmoded systems of thoughts, beliefs and myths.