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We Came First: Relationship Advice from Women Who Have Been There (Humor Dating Book, Women in History Book) Hardcover – October 1, 2019

by Jennifer Wright (Author)
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The modern guide to seduction and dating for badass ladies.

"…expert advice from historical icons" Flavorwire Book of the Week

Jennifer Wright's We Came First offers the ultimate relationship advice from the women who have been there. History's most fabulous, revered and sassy women provide wise counsel about modern life's romantic complexities, from dating apps, to feminist conundrums and how not to give a f*ck. In her punchy new book, bestselling author Jennifer Wright imagines how history's most powerful women would approach current–day dating anxieties, with agony–aunt–style questions, quirky illustrations and more.

Ever wondered what Cleopatra would have to say about making the first move? Or how Grace Kelly would recommend making your feelings known? The book champions the complicated love lives of the women who came first. Some of it bad(!) – all of it relatable – advice from history's most audacious agony aunts includes:

Amelia Earhart on Keeping your identity
Marilyn Monroe on Pleasing yourself
Marie Antoinette on Rising to the occasion
Queen Victoria on Motherhood
Eleanor Roosevelt on Keeping your career
Frida Kahlo on Having your own space
Dorothy Parker on Overcoming heartbreak
Greta Garbo on Breaking an engagement
Pocahontas on Having a voice
Jane Austen on Self–sufficiency
Coco Chanel on Defying expectation

With hilarious quizzes on:

Which flirty era you belong to
What your engagement ring will look like
Who your celebrity partner would be
How you should mend your broken heart
Your must–have single woman item

We Came First is the perfect gift for those looking for dating advice (from historical ladies!)

Fans of It Ended Badly will love this witty guide to seduction from history's most badass women.

"I hope you can use it to dispel myths about dainty, delicate ladies of the olden days and champion the complicated love lives of the women who came first. In every sense of the phrase." Jennifer Wright
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"No offense to Dear Abby, Dan Savage, Cosmopolitan and every dating advice podcast to ever exist (including mine), you are no longer needed. Jennifer Wright has all of the relationship advice you'll ever need thanks to Zelda Fitzgerald, Cleopatra and Joan of Arc. The fact that it's also whip-smart, incredibly well researched and hilarious are just bonuses!" Laura Lane co-author of This Is Why You're Single

"The worst thing about love is how lonely it can make you feel. When it's wonderful, you feel special, as if you and your partner invented sex, as if no one had ever looked so long and adoringly into another's eyes. So it follows then that when love ends, your heartbreak will feel unbearably unique. Enter Jennifer Wright and her army of historical women cum advice columnists. Whether you are entering or exiting love's locked room, Ms. Wright's witty (and delightfully cockeyed) advice book offers contemporary readers excellent company. Through the imagined voices of Cleopatra, Joan of Arc, and many others (who respond to contemporary relationship questions with hilarious, inspiring, and cringe-worthy stories from their own lives), Ms. Wright reminds us that not only are we not alone, but we've got all of history on our side. Iris Smyles, author of Iris Has Free Time and Dating Tips For The Unemployed

"We Came First is smart, funny, feminist and in true Wright fashion, even delightfully educational! This book would make the perfect present for a friend who needs some guidance and a laugh." Loryn Brantz Author of the Bestselling board book series, Feminist Baby

"A hilarious reminder that the women of the past were just as bold, brave, and unabashedly "difficult" as they are today." Rachel Hills, author of The Sex Myth: The Gap Between Our Fantasies and Reality

"The answers are so spot on that at first I thought Jennifer Wright must have held séances, consulted mediums and used a Ouija board to channel and consult the spirits of these glamorous and powerful women in the afterlife. When I saw her bibliography I realized she must have spent over a year in libraries sleuthing the most relevant answers to love in the world! The best advice comes from Sappho: "Love who you love. Life is short. I should know- I'm long dead." Laren Stover, author of The Bohemian Manifesto and The Bombshell Manual of Style

"A Good Book full of Bad Advice from Great Women, written by a Delightful Person. -Stephen Colbert

Ever wondered what Cleopatra would tell you about your dating life? How about what advice Marie Antoinette might have about erectile dysfunction? Jennifer Wright has you covered in this bitingly funny feminist jewel of a book. Andrea Dunlop, author of We Came Here to Forget

"Jennifer Wright was among the world's most entertaining historians before she wrote this delightful book, which includes, among other gems, a detailed account of Mary Shelly carrying around her dead husband's heart in a bag. We Came First is a goddamn treasure trove of fun facts. Lauren Duca, author of How to Start a Revolution: Young People and the Future of American Politics

About the Author

Jennifer Wright is the political editor at large for BAZAAR.com. She's been published in The New York Times, The New York Post, The New York Observer, TheNewYorker.com and some publications that don't have New York in their title. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband, Daniel Kibblesmith.

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  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Laurence King Publishing (October 1, 2019)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Hardcover ‏ : ‎ 120 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 1786275023
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-1786275028
  • Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 14.9 ounces
  • Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 6.1 x 0.75 x 8.55 inches
  • Customer Reviews:
    4.6 4.6 out of 5 stars 23 ratings

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Jennifer Wright is an author and political editor-at-large for Harper's Bazaar.

Her pop history books include 'It Ended Badly: 13 of the Worst Break-Ups in History,' the Audible bestseller 'Get Well Soon: History's Worst Plagues and The Heroes That Fought Them,' and 'We Came First: Romantic Advice From Women Who Have Been There.'

Jennifer is also a frequent speaking guest and panel moderator for schools, museums, and networking events — speaking on the subjects of how societies, past and present, address women’s issues, reproductive rights, love, and of course, plagues.

Her work can be seen in places like The New York Times, The New York Post, The New York Observer, Time Out New York, and some other publications that don't have “New York” in the title.

She is represented by Anna Sproul-Latimer at Ross Yoon Agency.

You can follow her on Twitter @JenAshleyWright.

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Christo
5.0 out of 5 stars Jennifer Wright Teaches History in a More Delightful Way Than Anyone in History.
Reviewed in the United States on December 4, 2019
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If Jennifer Wright had been my history teacher in High School, by now I would be a History Professor myself, following in her elegant path, writing entertaining humor books disguised as history books and history books disguised as humor books. Her writing is simple, funny, on-point, witty, informative and delightful. This is a perfect time of year to buy multiple copies of this book, because I'm told that people hand out gifts this time of year. Instead of a hundred car commercials on TV, there should be ads for this book. Anna Kendrick should be singing about this book, dressed throughout a commercial like all the women depicted therein. The drawings are fun too. I learned a lot about women throughout history. I learned that a writer can simultaneously make your feel giddy, curious and smarter all in a single page, and then do it again on the next page. Why are you still reading this review? You should be buying this book at this point. How many copies? I don't really know your social circle, so maybe make it an even thirty? Up to you.
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L. Boyle
5.0 out of 5 stars Witty book and the perfect gift
Reviewed in the United States on October 2, 2019
This is a fun, funny book that, among other things, will be on my gift giving list for the foreseeable future. I hadn't realized when I first saw it, but it's almost more of a graphic novel style, except instead of 'graphic novel' it might be more fair to say illustrated advice column. I tend to read more history books than I do relationship books, but this is a delightful mix of both. I mentioned it as a great book for a gift because it seems perfect as a gift for history nerds, feminists, your brother's new girlfriend, your sister's new boyfriend, the friend who you read quizzes in the back of magazines with, your roommate...the list goes on. Just buy it. It's great.
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Phoebe B.
5.0 out of 5 stars Jennifer Wright kills it once again...
Reviewed in the United States on December 29, 2019
I have been a fan of Wright's work since I first stumbled across her articles at The Gloss years ago. Since then she's become an even wittier and captivating writer. When it comes to history, Wright knows her sh*t and when it comes to entertaining and making history fun, she nails it. Although, admittedly, It Ended Badly will always be my favorite book by her, I genuinely loved and enjoyed We Came First -- I've even already ordered a couple copies for friends.
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The Kawaii Slartibartfast
5.0 out of 5 stars We Came First
Reviewed in the United States on October 1, 2019
I received a copy of this book from Netgalley and the publisher in exchange for an honest review.

This book was funny, poignant, and fiercely feminist.

What if you could go and ask the women of history for advice? Well, now you know! From Wallis to Pocahontas to Josephine questions about relationships are asked an answered.

This book was so much fun to read that my only complaint was that it didn't last longer!
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Hairette Hirsut
5.0 out of 5 stars Hilarious and brilliant, as always from this author.
Reviewed in the United States on October 1, 2019
As an avid fan of Wright, for her bitingly funny, wise and shrewd books that offer new takes on historical subjects, I couldn’t WAIT to preorder this. Well, it came out today and I’m already salivating for Wright’s next book! This does not disappoint, full of all her fabulous observations, hilarious asides and above all deep historical knowledge, thus feminist take is about time and perfectly timely. Love it!
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Dana Schwartz
5.0 out of 5 stars Jennifer Wright is a brilliant writer who finds the charm and humor in history
Reviewed in the United States on October 1, 2019
I've read everything Jennifer Wright has put out, and I've always been so impressed (and like, 20% jealous) of her talent. She manages to take fascinating moments from history and distill the meaning, while making it seem relevant to today. This book is just another example of how funny she is—it's the type of book you should leave on your table constantly so visitors know how cultured you are.
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Kristine Fisher
2.0 out of 5 stars We Came First
Reviewed in the United States on October 22, 2019
We Came First by Jennifer Wright is a free NetGalley ebook that I read in late September.

The strength and self-esteem of well-known historical women and the advice they’d give to others that are in romantic relationships. It's all quite sassier than you might think, in that it’s formatted like an advice column over a two-page spread with a lavish illustration and personal dossier. However, it's not quite for everyone - I'd give it a B+ for effort, A for its colorful and organized look, but a hard D for twisting the words of a respected, well-known woman to suit the book’s theme.
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Katarina
5.0 out of 5 stars Brilliant
Reviewed in the United States on October 2, 2019
Entertaining, fun and funny. I love the tongue-in-cheek style, which delivers empowering information about famous women in a brilliant format.
I highly recommend, and also wish it was longer. I was sad to reach the last page.

This book was provided to me by Netgalley in return for an honest review
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