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The Practical Guide to Men: How to Spot the Hidden Traits of Good Men and Great Relationships Paperback – January 19, 2016

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Where are the good men?

Good men are everywhere, and they are searching for terrific women. So why are they hard to find? And why do so many women make life-altering mistakes by choosing the wrong men?

The answer is distressingly simple. Good men don't always know how to attract women, and women don't always recognize good men. It's as if there is a wall between the most compatible people.

But don't despair! The Practical Guide to Men holds time-tested wisdom for spotting good men who are searching for great relationships. You'll discover...
  • The three pillars of a good man. Great relationships begin with the best raw material. Men of character possess these basic traits.
  • The twelve-point man inspection. Men who succeed in relationships have the right tools for lasting romance. These questions will help you evaluate his relationship readiness.
  • Ten self-deceptions that lead to costly relationship errors. Life is too short to suffer through bad relationships. Find out how to avoid common mistakes women make when choosing men.
Written by a happily married man who is also a clinical psychologist, The Practical Guide to Men is a celebration of romance, and it's the perfect guide to finding love in these complex times.

(This book was originally published under the title Is He Worth It? How to Spot the Hidden Traits of Good Men.)
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The Practical Guide to Men is a must-have for any woman confused about finding the man of her dreams--or deciding whether she has already found him. Dr. Smith's conversational style is easy to read while also offering useful insights. He clarifies the complicated and often confusing world of men as potential partners. If you are wondering how to find a good man, or whether a particular man is worth keeping, this is the book for you!--Leslie Becker-Phelps, PhD, author of Insecure in Love

Good men abound--yes, really! But do you believe you deserve them? Do you know how to identify Mr. Right, and how to avoid Mr. Wrong? Whether you've picked inappropriate partners in the past, or whether you want to avoid them in your future, this book is for you. Based on science rather than opinion, and providing detailed examples that underscore every point, The Practical Guide to Men is definitely worth it. --Duana C. Welch, PhD, author of Love Factually

Shawn Smith has done it again with his latest book! With a deft hand at applying research, humor, and clinical savvy to the most common relationship question, The Practical Guide to Men is a wise and fascinating look at how to recognize a truly good man. Women will benefit from this brilliant insider's view into the male psyche, while men will find help refining their relationship readiness. A spectacular read.--Shannon Kolakowski, PsyD, author of Single, Shy, and Looking for Love and When Depression Hurts Your Relationship

Psychologist Shawn Smith offers practical and immediately useful advice about evaluating a man as a possible long-term romantic partner. The Practical Guide to Men addresses the traits a stable man exhibits, and the warning signs you would be wise to look for when you are evaluating whether a man is the right one for you. If you are trying to decide whether a man you're dating could be the one you give your heart to, you will want to read this book.--Neil Rosenthal, syndicated relationship advice columnist and author of Love, Sex, and Staying Warm

Women make mistakes far too often in their choice of men. The Practical Guide to Men explains why, and it offers practical strategies for avoiding common mistakes. You will find information that will help keep your eyes wide open when it really counts. The book is an engaging and eye-opening read, guaranteed to be useful for any woman seeking a dream companion for life.--Susan Page, author of If I'm So Wonderful, Why Am I Still Single?

About the Author

Shawn T. Smith is a clinical psychologist in Denver, Colorado. He is the author of Surviving Aggressive People, The User's Guide to the Human Mind, and The Woman's Guide to How Men Think. He also writes a blog at ironshrink.com. Shawn lives with his wife and daughter, and their dog.

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  • Publisher ‏ : ‎ Mesa Press (January 19, 2016)
  • Language ‏ : ‎ English
  • Paperback ‏ : ‎ 228 pages
  • ISBN-10 ‏ : ‎ 0990686426
  • ISBN-13 ‏ : ‎ 978-0990686422
  • Item Weight ‏ : ‎ 2.31 pounds
  • Dimensions ‏ : ‎ 5.5 x 0.52 x 8.5 inches
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Shawn Smith is a clinical psychologist in Denver, Colorado and the author of five psychology books. He also writes a blog at docsmith.co, where he has answered important questions such as: Can dogs learn to read? Why do I feel amorous when I have a cold? Is my ex possessed? Shawn's writing is light-hearted, impeccably researched, and always useful.

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Chris Oliver
5.0 out of 5 stars Don't leave your future to chance!!!
Reviewed in the United States on March 16, 2016
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I have read all of Shawn Smith's books and gained valuable insight from each one. However, I really wanted my 19-year-old daughter to read this one. I have been married 20 years to a great man who is definitely "worth it" but I want her to actually understand and see what makes a good man for the long haul. I don't want to see her make the same relationship mistakes so many women make. I want her to become aware of the qualities that make men truly good boyfriends and husbands, and this book does precisely that. The author isn’t apologetic about men or male behavior. Just like his other book, “The Woman’s Guide to How Men Think,” this one celebrates the differences between men and women, and I appreciate that in a time when the lines of gender are becoming blurry. Even more important, IMHO, the book acknowledges that some men, more than others, have traits and characteristics that are better suited to long-term relationships. I have heard lots of mothers express the "get out there and experiment" attitude to their daughters which honestly freaks me out! Why not be selective and wise instead of only learning through random trial and error?!

Anyway, I love “the three pillars of a good man” (sense of purpose, good mental health, and emotional maturity) because it’s such a simple but powerful framework for thinking about what will work in a relationship years down the road. The “12-point man inspection” is also a useful tool, and great conversation starter between men and women. The writing is lighthearted but well researched and organized. I highly recommended this book for any woman who wants to know how great relationships work and what truly good men bring to the table. My daughter loved it and has said that the insight she gained is sticking with her
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Bridget Granger
5.0 out of 5 stars Is He Worth It, is a Worth While Read
Reviewed in the United States on May 12, 2016
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As a psychologist, I often see female patients struggle with whether a man treats them well and might be a good fit for them. This book helps on both counts, and I plan to recommend it to some of them.

I appreciated how the book starts by helping the reader identify how her history with male role models and other men affects her choices. This is critical. The book then focuses on three traits men possess when they are well-equipped for relationships: a sense of purpose, good mental health, and emotional maturity. The author gives detailed techniques for assessing these traits and understanding the behaviors associated with each.
Dr. Smith handles these topics with sensitivity and lightness, while at the same time being very direct about the factors women should consider before committing themselves to a serious relationship.

It's also important to point out that this book focuses on good and healthy relationships, not just broken ones, a welcome respite from the myriads of books out there. While the author gives plentiful examples of bad relationship behavior, the focus remains on what works. Women who use this book to examine their relationships may very well discover that they have wonderful boyfriends or husbands. Others may discover that they could do much better.

As a psychologist, I will recommend "Is He Worth It?" to any client seeking to create better relationships with men.
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5.0 out of 5 stars This is a good book that has great advice about how men work
Reviewed in the United States on April 17, 2016
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This is a good book that has great advice about how men work. I will make sure that my daughter reads this when she is older. This book will also help me guide myself so that I can be a better role model for my daughter and son.
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Sirius9Ly
4.0 out of 5 stars An engaging and informative read!
Reviewed in the United States on April 28, 2016
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I recently read this book as part of my neighborhood book club. It is beautifully written with sound advice for the single gal, and has plenty of anecdotal stories to keep the non-fiction psychology jargon fresh and interesting. There were six of us at our book club meeting, and while four of us are married, we found ourselves gleefully reminiscing on past relationships and the mistakes of our younger selves. We showered our two single book-club friends with plenty of (unsolicited) advice and found ourselves using the book to anchor our reasoning. We not only delighted in perseverating on ourselves and former partners, but gossiped about what made our current and past partners "worth it" ...or not.

Truthfully, we discovered that much of the advice in this book can be applied to many different kinds of relationships! As a group, we decided 4 out of 5 stars would be perfect - it incites plenty of self-reflection and is a great topic of conversation, though loses a tiny bit of relevance for those of us already in good relationships. Overall, a very informative and engaging read - A true MUST-read for singles looking for a good partner!
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Meredith S Russell
5.0 out of 5 stars easy read, with succinct and clear ideas about 'good ...
Reviewed in the United States on May 13, 2016
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I randomly stumbled across Shawn's blog and ended up clicking a link to this book. It's a fast, easy read, with succinct and clear ideas about 'good men.' I think the points are reasonable, the author is not suggesting 'perfection' is necessary for a good future, but he is very clear about what the potential future looks like if you decide to make exceptions to some of the characteristics he describes. I have three daughters with whom I plan to review this material with in the future, and it left me wishing I had read this prior to my first (and failed) marriage. When it comes to written material, I often am a skeptic and critic... I literally have nothing to say - it is well written, well organized, and the content is practical, comprehensive and relevant. Well done and thank you!
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Ms. Eva Binder
5.0 out of 5 stars Paints A Picture of A Good Man
Reviewed in the United States on February 20, 2019
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This is a great book to remind women that men have a core need for relationship and often express it differently from us.

Especially helpful is Shawns list of what goes into a strong, healthy man's set of tools. When women are looking for a good man, putting the idea away that all men are hopeless at relationships and embracing the idea that many men want relationship with a good woman can give women a better shot at finding Mr Right.
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Fabiha Zaman
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Persian Guy
5.0 out of 5 stars Must Read !
Reviewed in Canada on April 7, 2018
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Women ! First, read this book to know whether the guy your are interested is marriage material or not. It gives you the requirement of marriage material man.
Men ! Read this book to know whether you are marriage material or not ! It gives the your strengths and weakness parts and then you go from there.
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Nikoletta
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One of the best books I've read on male/female psychology in the context of dating and relationships. I found it outstanding for my personal needs and as a women's dating coach too. Read the one written for men about women as well. Just as great!
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Reviewed in Canada on February 7, 2019
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