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Get the Life You Want: The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming Hardcover – August 21, 2008
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When conventional therapy and drugs fail, Richard Bandler delivers, often with miraculous results. Richard Bandler cocreated the field of NLP with John Grinder in the early 1970s. Since then, Bandler's work revolutionized the field of personal change; his models and methods have been widely adopted and used successfully in colleges and universities, therapists'offices, professional sports teams, and businesses across the globe.
While many people have written books on NLP, much of what has been written is based on Bandler's ideas. Get The Life You Want shares 'the how' from Bandler himself, with remarkable insights into some of his greatest and most advanced work to date, including compelling true examples from client sessions. With more than thirty exercises that promise rapid relief from any problem or habit, plus a glossary of terms and a detailed index, this is a culmination of a lifetime of work written in a simple, engaging style that both clinicians and laypeople will find effective.
Richard Bandler's books have sold more than half a million copies worldwide. Tens of thousands of people, many of them therapists, have studied Bandler's blend of hypnosis, linguistics, and positive thinking at colleges and NLP training centers in the United States, Europe, and Australia. He is the author of Using Your Brain—for a Change, Time for Change, Magic in Action, and The Structure of Magic. He coauthored Frogs into Princes, Persuasion Engineering, The Structure of Magic Volume II, and Patterns of the Hypnotic Techniques of Milton H. Erickson Volume I.
- Print length264 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- PublisherHealth Communications Inc
- Publication dateAugust 21, 2008
- Dimensions5.5 x 0.8 x 8.5 inches
- ISBN-100757307760
- ISBN-13978-0757307768
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-- Paul McKenna, Ph.D., coauthor of I Can Make You Thin and host of TLC's I Can Make You Thin
'I know your life is about to change for the better. Why? Because you want it to, and because you have this book in your hands. With Richard Bandler's Guide to Personal Change and your willingness, you really can shift your life―starting from now."
-- Robert Holden, Ph.D., author of Shift Happens! and Happiness NOW
'For years, anyone wanting to learn directly from Richard Bandler had two choices: pay hundreds or even thousands of dollars to attend a live training or settle for material in books that, while excellent, were ten to thirty years behind the cutting edge. With this new book, Richard Bandler's Guide to Personal Change, the cutting edge has finally arrived―and it's sharper than ever!'
-- Michael Neill, author, You Can Have What You Want
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RUNNING YOUR OWN BRAIN: Changing Your
NeuroChemistry
One of the main focuses in my work has been discovering ways to help people achieve what I call 'personal freedom'. Personal freedom means having the freedom to be able to control your thoughts and to manifest the kinds of feelings you want in your life.
We are often imprisoned by the chains of our thoughts and we allow ourselves to think ourselves into problems. However, since most problems are created by our imagination and are thus imaginary, all we need are imaginary solutions. So, here are some effective ways of controlling your thinking for a change.
Think of a time when you felt really good. Now, step inside that time and see through your eyes, hear through your ears, and feel the really good feeling all the way through your body. Make the images bigger, brighter, more colorful, and you'll probably find yourself feeling even better. Make the sounds louder and crisper, and if there are no sounds, add sounds. Start to intensify the good feeling.
Next, find out where in your body the feeling starts and where it goes. Discover the direction it spins inside your body, and spin it faster and faster and, again, notice your feelings intensify. There lies the control you have over your brain to create powerful feelings inside of you.
You can then attach these feelings to other thoughts. If you keep spinning this feeling inside your body and you think about your future while it's spinning, you will start to associate the feeling with your future. By doing this, you will start to feel better about your future.
How to Feel Wonderful Exercise
1 - Think of a time you felt wonderful.
2 - Close your eyes and imagine that time in vivid detail. See the image clearly, hear the sounds loudly, remember the feelings as they were then.
3 - Imagine yourself stepping into that experience and imagine being in that memory as if it's happening now. See what you'd see, hear what you'd hear, feel how good you'd feel. Make the colors stronger and brighter if that helps. Notice how you were breathing back then, and breathe that way now.
4 - Pay attention to the wonderful feeling in your body and get a sense of where the feeling starts, where it goes, and the direction it moves in. Imagine taking control over the feeling and spinning it faster and faster and stronger and stronger through your body as the feelings increase.
5 - Think of a time in the future where you could use these good feelings. Spin these feelings throughout your body as you think about the future and the things you are doing over the next few weeks. Don't be too surprised if you find yourself feeling really good for absolutely no reason.
Similarly too, if you find yourself in a negative or unresourceful state, you can change your mood by changing the qualities of the feeling.
For example, think about somebody who annoys you, intimidates you, or irritates you. Make an image of him and see him look at you in whatever way he looks at you when he is annoying you. Hear him say whatever it is he says and notice the bad feeling that happens in your body.
Next, take this image and make it black and white. Move it far off into the distance. Make it much smaller, one-eighth its size. Place a clown's nose on his face. Hear him say whatever it is he says, but hear him say it in Mickey Mouse's, Donald Duck's, or Sylvester the Cat's voice. This changes the feeling you have toward him and allows you to deal with him with more confidence and effectiveness.
Changing Bad Feelings Exercise
1 - Think about somebody who annoys you, intimidates you, or irritates you. Make an image of him and see him look at you in whatever way he looks at you when he is annoying you. Hear him say whatever it is he says and notice the bad feeling that happens in your body.
2 - Take this image and make it black and white. Move it far off into the distance. Make it much smaller, one-eighth its size. Place a clown's nose on his face.
3 - Hear him say whatever it is he says, but hear him say it in Mickey Mouse's, Donald Duck's, or Sylvester the Cat's voice.
4 - Notice how you feel differently. Then distract yourelf for a few moments and think of him again. You will still be feeling differently about him.
When you practice using your brain in this way, you will find yourself feeling really good a lot more often. Achieving personal freedom is all about developing new mental habits and skills and getting used to mentally running your brain the way you choose to run it.
©2008. Richard Bandler. All rights reserved. Reprinted from Get the Life You Want. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system or transmitted in any form or by any means, without the written permission of the publisher. Publisher: Health Communications, Inc., 3201 SW 15th Street, Deerfield Beach, FL 33442
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- Publisher : Health Communications Inc; 1st edition (August 21, 2008)
- Language : English
- Hardcover : 264 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0757307760
- ISBN-13 : 978-0757307768
- Item Weight : 13.6 ounces
- Dimensions : 5.5 x 0.8 x 8.5 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #368,710 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #631 in Popular Psychology Psychotherapy
- #6,350 in Motivational Self-Help (Books)
- #7,993 in Personal Transformation Self-Help
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About the author
Richard Bandler’s seminars & workshops include Neuro-Hypnotic Repatterning®, Design Human Engineering®, Persuasion Engineering®, Personal Enhancement™, Charisma Enhancement®, Hypnosis, and others!
Dr. Bandler has continued to improve and evolve the field of NLP and gone on to develop other seminars as well, Design Human Engineering®, Persuasion Engineering®, Neuro-Hypnotic Repatterning® to name a few.
He has been interviewed by a variety of magazines from Psychology Today to Newsweek. Most major newspapers, TV Networks and Radio Stations around the world have interviewed him over the past 30+ years.
Dr. Bandler, a mathematician, philosopher, modeler, teacher, artist and composer for four decades has left a legacy of books, videos, audios, art, students and a body of knowledge that will change therapy, education and medicine forever. He has hundreds of thousands of students and hundreds of licensed institutes all over the world.
Dr. Bandler has made his mark and says he is just getting warmed up.
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When I first tried NLP, specifically the Swish technique, I didn't expect much. But lo and behold, it works like a charm! I was blown away. Specifically, I had some recurring negative memories. With the Swish technique, these negative memories vanished literally within 2-3 days. That's all it took. I do still sometimes think of those things - but when I do, they seem so far away, all blurred, "small" in size, "black and white," and without any emotional charge.
So then I decided to look more into NLP.
I LOVED this book! I got so much value out of it!
The way the book is structured:
1) First, Richard details the various NLP techniques.
2) Then, he goes on to show how to tackle various common challenges and desires, using these techniques. He groups these into three groups:
a) Getting over things (e.g., getting over fear and anxiety, getting over bad memories);
b) Getting through things (e.g., through habits and compulsions);
c) Getting to things (e.g., getting to make more money, meet people, etc).
As a side note, I'd like to comment on the "spinning" technique. Richard uses this pretty much in every section of the book. I see in the comments that some folks struggle with this idea and don't feel any "spinning." I was in the same boat. At first I did not feel any "spinning" at all and just couldn't get it. But then I got it! Richard explains (in the section about fear) that sometimes the tension gets so tight that it is not "spinning" - it's like if you screw something in very tightly. It just feels tight and stuck. In that case, he recommends trying to imagine "spinning" it one direction, e.g., clockwise, and then the other direction, - and see how it feels. Once I did that, I totally got it! Basically, if I try "spinning" the tightness of, say, where I feel the stress in one direction, it makes it feel worse, to the point of almost physical pain. But if I imagine "spinning" it in the opposite direction, then it feels so much lighter, freer, etc.
Very practical. Another thing that I want to point out is that various personal growth gurus all have their own voice, so does Richard. I really like and relate to his approach: it is easy going, with humor, lighten up type of approach. He also emphasizes that it should not take long to tackle problems, he believes in quick and efficient solutions. In other words, don't get married to your problems! Move on! :)
P.S.: In the recommended further reading list, Richard recommends books by Paul McKenna, another personal growth guru. I decided to check those out and was blown away. Paul McKenna's books are awesome, he is now one of my favorite authors! E.g., Change Your Life in 7 Days (I Can Make You) and his other books.
Here is what I can say from my heart about the man and about this book: Richard loves life, he loves people, and you get that in this book. He doesn't see any need for suffering over time. Whatever is not working for you in your life, Richard knows that you can get through it, over it or to it without suffering over time. He is not about doing it one way, the right way, his way - he is ALL ABOUT doing what works, doing it fast, and creating shifts in your life that impact you immediately and generatively. A generative shift is one that self adjusts over time, giving you access to more freedom, self expression and power in your life.
During the call, Richard shared that the idea for the book came to him while he was cooking. He thought about all the folks who will never walk into a certified NLP training, who may be intimated to delve into Hypnotic Learning Patterns or The Structure of Magic. All at once he knew that after nearly 40 years of change making with people from all walks of life and all parts of the world, that he was the one, (and I say the ONLY ONE) who could write a workable book where foundational NLP techniques and DHE tools are as easy to follow as a recipe for baking a chocolate cake.
He achieved his goal. As soon as I am out of the swimming pool, I am sending you a postcard, dear friend! (Swimming phobia from age 8, professional lessons, prior hypnosis, even a Tony Robbins phobia session did not work; what it took was this book!)
Buy the book. Put your skepticism in your closet long enough to read it. Choose one place in your life where you would like more freedom, power, joy and full self expression. Then take it on. Follow the directions and go for it. There's more than one technique to choose from, so no worry if the first one doesn't get it, go for the next one. My personal favorite, spinning the feelings in opposite directions. This is a big part of what smashed to pieces the real physical phobic responses my body experienced whenever I tried to swim.
If you want to have a life that works in a world that works, this is the book to buy now. No NLP experience required.
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